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How to STOP relating to your past self and instead focus on who you are right here, right now

Do you ever find yourself reflecting on your past self and cringing,  regretting choices you made, things you said or generally how you acted? If so, I can relate. I’m writing this blog to encourage you to silence this inner critic, and focus on the person you are today. We all have a past, and […]

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6 simple ways to be mindful each day

Acting in a mindful way is something that I have been trying hard to do these past few months. There is a lot of evidence to suggest that mindfulness-based activities can improve our mental health and wellbeing, some of which can be found in this article. To sum it up, though, increasing our ability to […]

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Failing well #3 : I suck at running

A while back I started discussing the concept of failing well. This means deliberately taking part in activities that aren’t perhaps your strong point, to expose yourself to what it means to fail. I was encouraged to embark on this journey after it became very clear that as a result of my perfectionism and high […]

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Education and our fear of failure

When we are scared of failing, this fear often stems from something, or is exacerbated in a certain environment. For me, this ‘thing’ in which my fear of failure is the greatest, is my experience of education.  Throughout our educational lives, we are tested and categorised in one way or another. Whether that is by […]

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Why you should take an Instagram detox

It has been over 2 weeks since I deleted the Instagram app off my phone. Throughout the past year or so, I have tried different methods to take a cleanse from this platform. Why was I so eager to take an Instagram detox? It was taking over my life – Social media is known for […]

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OWN YOUR MISTAKES!

I had a sudden realisation the other day that I am really really bad at owning my mistakes and I’ve been pondering over why that may be. Here are some of my considerations, maybe you can relate to some! Quite simply, I don’t like making errors – I am the definition of a perfectionist, and […]

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Why is self-compassion so difficult?

To be compassionate is to, quite simply, be kind to ourselves. When we have self compassion, we can act to ourselves in a similar way to how we act to others. We can forgive ourselves, be gentle to ourselves, and altogether be happier individuals. So, why then, when self compassion sounds so appealing, do so […]

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Why does it seem impossible to forgive ourselves?

We often forgive people quite easily. Your friend forgot to call? No big deal. Your partner forgot an important date? Ok, can be problematic, but forgivable. My point is, people mess up. We are imperfect human beings who do a lot of good, and also make mistakes. That is how life works. What I want […]

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In a world dominated by thoughts of what we DON’T have, here’s a radical notion – “You lack nothing”

In Rewire your mind, an audio book I’ve been listening to by Noah Jacobs, an idea really caught my attention: “You lack nothing” “It is a fallacy” What does this mean, exactly? Well, how I took it, is that in life, we are full of dominating thoughts of what is lacking in our lives. This could […]

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My favourite comforts #2: nostalgic books

We all have those books that we long to read for the first time again, to relive that sensation of finding a book, or a book series that completely encapsulates us. I’ve been reading some new material in lockdown, but over the past few months, when I sit down and force myself to read (I’ve […]